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Thursday, April 28, 2005

circle YES or NO

the latest on the boy front:

(because, as a dear friend said recently, "it's always complicated.")

really, this is kind of a poll. so, you know what that means? it means i'd REALLY like it if you gave me your opinion here. yes. ALL of you. even if i'll see you five minutes after i post this.

my issues with men are never very, umm...good? not that i date assholes or that i get involved in relationships that involve several acts of poorly performed drama. i actually don't even get to that point. my trouble is in how or whom i am attracting. let's make a list (and some of you may or may not be included in this list, but i'll never tell you either way, so just get over it.).

1. the married man
2. the *possibly* gay man
3. the completely unattractive man
4. the emotionally unavailable because i-have-so-much-more-going-on-in-my-life-than-you man

currently, i am taking issue with a man that falls into the second category. he shall remain nameless, but i will say that i work with him. oh, and he lives like three streets over from me. so, here's a super brief background. he's pretty. he's a self-proclaimed "kinda metro." he gets manicures. he is known to tan. he is still getting over a girl he dated three years ago. he thinks all females are virtually evil.

i'd worked with this guy for three years, even lived near him for possibly longer, and only began to know him during a recent field trip. he's excellent. and he's a cop on the side. hoTT.

oh yeah, the poll. sorry.

so, tonight, after not talking to him for about 4 or 5 days (long weekend, conflicting schedules at work, yadda yadda), he calls me. about 20 minutes ago to be precise. now, at first he's inquiring about my whereabouts and my journies of the evening. we share these boring details which leads into him talking about some of the other guys at work going out tonight. *pitter-patter* is he asking me to come with?! (no. of course not.)

but they're going out in Middletown, and that's a hike from here at this hour, he says.

yeah, i hear that...

yeah. [pause] so you're not doing anything?

now, at this point, i'm thinking, well, maybe he's trying to see if i'm free...if i wanna hang, yadda yadda. so i drop some hints ("nothing" "kinda bored" "what are you doing now" etc.) but he doesn't bite.

so, in essence, we spent about 15 minutes on the phone just "chatting." i was under the impression that males did not really partake in this generally feminine ritual.

WHY did he call? i'm not sure the reason for my intense need to know this (probably pride, but whatever) but i really want to know. i mean, just chatting... does this mean he's gay? or does it mean that he totally wants me and was too nervous? or maybe i'm just friend material? (that can't really be it, can it?)

oh, and i should add that he briefly discussed this other infamous wild girl who called us both the other night while completely boxed. her conversation with him, however, was apparently unrepeatable. and he shared this fact with me. not sure why.

yeah, so maybe there's about fifty questions in here instead of just one, and all are pretty vague. but check in anyway and make sure i'm still breathing, ok?

(i still believe that, despite this mess, things are really cut-and-dry. not complicated. so you can simply circle "yes" or "no" if you wish. that's really all this comes down to.)


At 4/29/2005 09:50:00 AM, Anonymous g said...

I circle yes, for you're boy troubles are always funny. And I circle maybe, he might be gay, but he's probably just a feminine type guy. I circle yes, he probably harbors some secret love for you but doesn't know how to properly show it. And what were the questions again?

At 4/29/2005 10:30:00 AM, Blogger beth said...

Well, I'm in zero position to offer any kind of relationship advice right now because my life is in shambles - BUT - you seem to want commentary. So, I will say that in my world, no one calls a girl unless he wants something. What he wants is up for debate. A bonking, some information, or some girly convo, who knows. I say you get to the bottom of it somehow.

At 4/30/2005 04:31:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You already know what I think but I will leave it as a comment because you will get excited to see a new post on your blog. The metro guy is definitely the best option (and stop saying he is possibly gay because he is far from it)

PS Angela is excitedly waiting to be babysitted

At 5/02/2005 03:57:00 PM, Blogger Bilvox said...

I say go for 2 or 4... 1 and 3 not good ideas...
kinda metro is good... maybe im biased, he just wants to present himself in the best light right?... and busy boy could be good... you just make him recognise why he should make time for you.
gees I dont know... things will play out for the best I think...

At 5/02/2005 04:06:00 PM, Blogger kristine said...

yes, i'm totally into bachelor #2. he's just impossible to figure out.
he called again today...and half-assed invited me out this coming weekend. he has like a million jobs, so he kind of qualifies for #4 status as well.
hopefully, for both your sake and mine, this becomes more interesting.


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